Don’t text, call. & leave yourself open for the right guy


Dear Allsfair,

i saw a girl in college. she looked at me with this look of interest but i was too far to go up to her and talk. but later on the same day i crossed her and we made eye contact and she smiled. so i said hi and started a conversation and she seemed interested(if i am not wrong) she asked question like what i do , age and other stuff. i asked her if she was single and she said yes, so i asked her if she wants to hangout the next day (which is Thursday tomorrow) she said yes and i took her number. this all happened yesterday. so today i text her and gave her my number and just say hi. but i didnt hear anything from her. i text her again in the evening but still no reply. so what do u think she is doing. i am not a player so i don’t understand these things. so please tell me what is going on. ~confused

Dear Confused,

It does sound like she was interested. The eye contact smile thing is a clear sign. I would leave her alone tonight, and tomorrow CALL her and ask if she’d still like to get together. If she doesn’t answer leave a message and if she doesn’t reply then just call it a loss. Don’t text when starting a relationship, while it’s easier and less awkward, it doesn’t convey as much interest. Plus you text your friends, call a girlfriend

Dear Allsfair,

My boyfriend and I have been dating for some time now, and we really love each other. But, recently, we’ve been going downhill. Slowly. We try not to think about it, but we both know what’s coming. We are both afraid of the actual break up… So I think we’re just trying to let things slide, but it’s just as painful.
What can I do? What should I do about this situation? ~ Slow Dance

Dear Slow Dance,

Dump him seems like the obvious answer. The more you drag it out the more it will hurt. It sounds like you both are just afraid of being without each other. The best thing you can do for yourself is to ditch the wrong guy and leave yourself open for the right guy to come along. There’s no point in holding onto someone you don’t have a future with. Plus being single really isn’t that bad. Remember all those girlfriends you have that fell by the wayside while you were in a relationship? Now is the perfect time to rekindle those relationships. I know it’s cliche, but it’s true that your friends will always be there when you need them.

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About allsfairadvice

I'm not a therapist, I just enjoy helping out with people's relationships. I always give straightforward honest answers. I notice that people frequently need the same advice, and they need a deeper insight into the way people think. I've got a pretty good handle on it
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